Tanzeela Majeed Blog
Stretching Ourselves Beyond Limits And Hitting Burn Out
A few days ago, I was cleaning the kitchen after dinner and at one point I just knew that I should stop and leave the rest for tomorrow. I was super tired, and as I hadn’t recovered fully from a blip in my health, I couldn’t do as much as I normally would have.
You might have experienced something similar…
Your back is beginning to hurt and you need to lie down, or the cup of tea you were meant to enjoy after cleaning is getting cold because your tasks keep piling up, or you desperately want t…
How To Bond With Our Children
As parents, when we plan how much time in the week we intend to spend with our children, it’s easy to focus on how much time we’re spending with them, as opposed to the quality of interactions between us.
Many sisters organise their work around their kids school hours so that they can be at home when the kids get home mashaAllah.
When we are around our kids on a daily basis, how do we interact with them?
What kind of communication exists between us?
Without intentional communication we can…
Are Daughter In-laws The Baddies?
Almost everyone I've ever spoken to knows this narrative...
She gets married, he says they need to live with in-laws, there's tension, tough conversations don't take place, there's more tension, they hit rock bottom and eventually they need to leave and get their own place as the marriage is suffering.
Many a times there’s a happy ending to the above, alhumdulilah.
But I’d like to focus in on the story itself.
There's usually goodies and baddies in the story - depending on who is telli…
When Lack Of Confidence Takes Over Your Parenting
What makes little toddlers so confident?
They seem to just carry on with their own business with no worries.
Even if that's walking towards a staircase that they could potentially fall down from... No worries, they'll just do an impressive wobbly U-turn right at the edge of the top stair and miraculously save themselves! (Alhumdulilah for the angels that protect our kids).
Kids are funny; despite being smaller than us, they scare us all the time!
I remember a friend’s 8 year old climbing …
How Anger Can Take Over
When we are worked up and angry about something, it’s interesting how blind we can become and not even realise.
Yet, in hindsight we can often see where our blinders were.
Take a simple example:
You tell your daughter (or niece or son) that she needs to tidy her room today. She gets a reminder in the morning, and then later after school. But every time you glance in her room for a little check in – it’s still not done.
After dinner, it’s still not done.
After homework, it’s still not done…
The Husband Who Sticks To His Laptop Like Glue!
The ill effects of gradually getting addicted to social media are real. There seems to be more and more opportunities to get addicted to all sorts of devices, apps and anything that connects you to the online world.
I often wonder if our next generation of children will ever get to know what real human connection is like! Will they know what it feels like to have a spouse who is present?
That thought might have crossed your mind about your own marriage. If you’re feeling distanced from your sp…